"Don't compare", mum would say.

Yep yep.

And after what it seems like forever, yay a new post. Sorry, I'm working on a few personal projects lately and my mind is just all over the place, I can't seem to get myself organised.

I came by this quote or saying few days ago, "Other people's successes are not your failures" and it just got me thinking so I would like to share it with all of you (people who read my blog lol). I'm not sure about some of you but I've done it before. When my friends or someone I don't like succeed in something, I'll feel as though I've failed. Have you guys done that? For example, my sister got this tumbling pass and I haven't, I'll just feel like a total failure.

It's always good to set a standard for yourself to achieve. For some, we'll use our friends as a standard, "ok, he got 88% in this, so I shall try to get that the next time around", something like that right? I'm surrounded by friends and people who are better than I am and it's suppose to be a good thing, so you know how you can improve yourself and what goal you would like to achieve. "I wanna be as smart as her." "I wanna be as strong as him." Thoughts like that in our head. But when our friends become very successful in whatever and you don't reach up to the same par, we start hating ourselves and calling ourselves failures. We're so jealous of their successes and we get mad at ourselves because we can't do the same. "Why can't I be like her" whine whine whine.

I think many people do that 99% of the time (I just realised I used figures twice already, what is wrong with me.. I hate numbers). Again, I believe we should all surround ourselves with better individuals because it does influence you to become a better person. We'll all have our good times and down times. Just because someone succeed and you didn't, does not mean you are a failure. Be happy for your friends, SINCERELY! I know sometimes we'll be like "oh yay, wow, congrats, *fake smiles*  *fake hug* and all" but inside we're like "kjshkjjfjabfgjwjqbjdb". We should take it as motivation and also put more focus on ourselves to succeed and not waste time sulking about being a failure. Focus on you! We always always always compare ourselves to others in a negative way.

I remember as a kid when my mum used to scold me when I get bad results, I'll tell her "I'm not the only one who scored badly, everyone else did just as bad too." And she'll reply, "Don't compare!" Then she'll see other people's results and say, "Why can't you score like him/her? Results so good", I will then tell her "Don't compare!" I damn gutsy right as a kid, then mum goes, "SAY AGAIN?"

Anyway, like I always say, there will always be someone out there who is better than you but that's okay, because that's them and you are you. You have your OWN goals, your OWN achievements and you OWN ways on how to get there. It's about you and your own successes.You'll have to make your own mistakes to know how to get better. You can't expect yourself to learn if all you're gonna focus on is how great your friend is. It's normal to envy your friends' successes but don't let it eat you inside out because you might just turn out to be a very hateful friend. Remember, compare only if you're gonna do it in a way that's going to be benefit you. If you're going to compare and then just sulk about it forever, you're just going to waste precious time to get better and you might lose a friend :(

Don't be too hard on yourself when things don't go right, that just means there's more room for improvement :) Be positive and as Ellen would say, "Be kind to one another!" Save the Earth pl0x. 
Thank you so much for reading my post, I do apologise for not being a daily blogger, I'm not a fun person. HAHA.

OH OH! One thing before I leave! If you're living in Selangor/ KL, Malaysia and you're a fashion/art student or you do scrapbooking or you DIY things or you sew/knit or you need home supplies or fabrics or you bake or you love cosplay or you love gardening or you need party items or whatever you can think of, basically DIY things, go to this super huge ass shop called "Spotlight" in Ikano Power Centre. I usually go to Art Friend to get all my scrapbook/art stuff but Spotlight is way way way better and has much more things! You can even DIY your own bra! Please go and check it out because when I was in there, I felt like I was in heaven. (I'm sorry Art Friend, I found my new favourite shop). Have a good day y'all!

Do not be fooled by the small entrance, you have no idea how big it is inside and how many different things there are. 

(I didn't take a picture while I was there, so these pictures are from google)

Love Rachel*

Why short hair?

Happy Saturday guys and also Happy April :D Anyway, as most of you may know, I've cut my hair short. If you know me, you've probably known me with long hair or medium length hair most of my life and now boom! Short hair with a sidecut:b

Before. This was when I just highlighted my hair red.

After. Whadaya think? :b

I've always been the type of person that really wants to change my hairstyles once in a while but because I've been in school, I can't do much about my hair. Finally I've graduated from high school and I wanted a fresh look. For months I'm going through pinterest and google looking for nice hairstyles and all. In the end, I'm really happy with the way my new haircut turned out. Honestly, I was freaking scared to begin with because what if I regret my sidecut or what if it doesn't turn out nice and just all those "what ifs" popping into my head. My mum wasn't really supportive of me wanting to cut my hair because she "invested" too much in my hair but I was glad that she still gave me the freedom to do it and it meant a lot. (Thank you mom <3)  I went to my friends and kept asking them what do you think, will it look nice? blah blah and they just told me "Go for it, just do it" Yeah its true hair will grow but who wants to be stuck with an ugly hairstyle for months? Hair is also part of your self-confidence, ya know? The moment before they cut my hair, my heart was beating super fast and I almost chicken-ed out. But too late, they cut a chunk of my hair from the left side of my head and in my head I'm like , "Well, too late" Anyway, yep, I took the chance and I'm really glad I did :) It gave me a new look and it was kinda refreshing. It was like a restart for myself, something like a new starting point, you get what I mean? It was a new beginning :') I'm also glad that many of my friends and family liked my haircut, even my grandma does! (Although she hoped that I would have gotten a more drastic haircut like boy cuts)

The pony tail they chopped off and guess what, my grandma insisted that I take the ponytail home which I did! HAHAHA

Besides that, holy crap, having short hair really has it advantages. I'm saving so much shower time. I use half or even less of what I usually use when I shampoo and condition my hair. Drying my hair takes 5 minutes unlike last time where I blow dry my hair until my arms get sore. Less hair is falling out when I condition my hair. Life became 50 times easier!!!!Bless Ye The Lord! But one of the down points are that, it's hotter because last time, I could just bun it all up but now I have hair covering my neck and I can't bun it up. I thought having short hair was going to be super airy but my particular hairstyle didn't help me with that and it sucks! Whenever I coach, I'm just sweating like mad in the hot ass gym and all I have is a hair band :( Its ok, sweating is good for you I guess.

Anyway, this post is mainly meant for the people who asked why I decided to cut my hair after having long hair for years. Well, I just want a change and I was getting really irritated with my long hair. It was just getting in the way, ugh :b I just like change, simple as that :) Also, it was just me taking a chance and trying something new. I know once I start officially working I can't try drastic hairstyles that will be unacceptable in work places anymore so might as well try it now :) So in general, if you have a chance, take it, try something different, do something out of your comfort zone. We're all going to be scared when it comes to taking risks, it happens but don't let fear hold you back from really living :)

I know some may think "well it's just cutting hair, no big deal" Right before I cut my hair was already reaching my butt and after years of effort growing your hair out, it is really nerve-wrecking to suddenly chop it off shorter than your shoulders:b I'm still deciding whether I should maintain this hairstyle or let it grow out... Decisions decisions decisions :( Opinions? haha. Anyway, thank you guys for reading and hope you guys like my hairstyle :b?

Have a great weekend!

Love Rachel*