Apparently we're over-connected.

No I'm not antisocial, pssh!
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I have a lot of work and studying to finish up tonight but I'm just gonna blog anyway because I know what I wanna blog about. If I delay my blogging, I'll probably forget (I'm damn forgetful). Continuing...

Alright, if you're from my school, you would know that during Encik Hanif's speech, he mentioned about how our generation is over-protective, over-connected, overwhelmed. Right? And I really have to agree there, lol. Social networking has really taken over our lives if you really think about it. You would most likely, have a twitter account, whatsapp, instagram and facebook. I have these four apps, not sure about you guys. Haha.

As much as I'm into social networking, I have to say, I really hate it sometimes. For example, dinner time. It's the time when we're suppose to bond with the family and shits right? But really, how many of us actually put the phones down and talk BEFORE and AFTER the food(not when you're eating but omg, people actually use their phones while eating). I pity my grandparents sometimes because the younger people in the family are using phones and my grandparents are just sitting right there.Then my granpda will purposely take out his Nokia phone and act like us:b haha I also do not like when we're eating and then there's this phone on the table vibrating, that irritates me to the max because I find it rude. Which is why I always keep my phone on my lap or in my pocket. I admit that I use my phone at the dinner table sometimes and when I see other people using it, I realise how rude it is and immediately put my phone down.

Another scenario would be, when I hang with my friends. You know we all go to someone's house to watch movie and stuff. There will be a few antisocial asstards who will use their phones during the movie and ask what happened in the movie once in a while. It pisses me off because, hello, you wanna go to someone's house and hang, but then you're using your phone. Might as well stay at home right, lol. It defeats the whole purpose right?

Why are we so attached to our phones? Why do we need to constantly go on twitter or talk to someone through whatsapp? And if there's nothing much on twitter, or no one to talk to on whatsapp, we play games. This is my theory:

"We're bored" 

We cannot just wait for food to come, we need to do something to fill time whether it's productive or not. And since you're already whatsapping someone, you'll just continue on anyway. I know you constantly refresh your twitter timeline hoping for at least one new tweet to appear, lol. Then when you're bored, you just keep tweeting on and on that you're bored. Do something about it then, "but I'm lazy." Exactly, so shut up and stop complaining. But really, sometimes when you tweet something, no one cares or people just see tweets to be busybody. We're so into twitter like it's our newspaper already, lol. Daily information of other people's lives. But seriously, do you ever wonder why you tweet? If you send me to camp and tell me not to use my phone, sure no problem, maybe once in a while to tell my mum how I'm doing but that's about it. I'm proud to say I'm not very attached to my phone but sadly, I do use my phone at the dinner table sometimes, I use my phone unnecessarily. I'm trying to change my habit. You know when you're over-attached to your phone when you use it to "escape from reality" or your problems. Seriously, I have friends like that and I think that is a terrible way to escape. But you shouldn't be escaping from your problems to begin with. It upsets me that some people need their phones every-freaking-where they go. 

So when you go out with your family whoever, lay off the phone. Use it when you only need it. You're suppose to TALK to someone with your MOUTH. Not through whatsapp when you're only 5 metres away, lol. Seriously, if we keep this up, people will not know how to communicate anymore. I will definitely try to stay away from my phone more often and do more productive things instead. Think about it, why do you tweet? (I also don't know why) Why do you keep refreshing the same damn timeline, when you know only one or two tweets may appear? Lay off the phones man, it's about manners and also not being too attached to a damn object. Some of you may think I'm old-fashioned and may oppose to what I say but in the end, this is what I think. If you don't think social networking is killing our society, fine. But give a good thought about it. 

It doesn't feel the same. Maybe I'm overthinking.

Love Rachel*

Education *yawns*

Dedicating this post to my mother :)

Yay, blog time! I actually have a few topics on my mind but I chose this because I felt like it :b

Anyway, I'm pretty sure we had times where we just don't wanna study, feel like dropping out of school, flunk all our tests and just don't give a shit about our studies anymore. I know I had my time. I remember it was during the 2nd monthly exams. I had trouble catching up with all my work and I was so far behind lessons. So in class, I was kinda lost. I had to study like crazy and my god, I was just damn stressed and frustrated. I thought of dropping out of school and I was dead serious. I actually told my mum about it. "Mum, can I just drop out of school? I can't take it anymore." But then I realised, I've been studying since kindergarten. My kindergarten school was pretty expensive, I study IGCSE syllabus in Sri KL (which we all know is not a very cheap school) plus all my activities and tuition fees (expensive as well). My mum raises my three sisters alone, so basically she's the only one who works her ass off just for us. Before I move on, I'm not bragging and I'm not comparing my life to anyone else's. I've talked to my mum about these things a lot of times. I've considered quitting my sports and decreasing my tuition because I don't wanna make a bigger hole in my mum's purse but she always tells me that if its gonna benefit me, she will be willing to pay. This obviously makes me feel so guilty and upset inside.

So whenever I don't feel like studying or choose not to work hard during training, my brain immediately thinks of my mother. My brain will be like, "You wanna waste mummy's money is it?" And automatically, I'll study hard or train even harder. I guess you can say my mum is one of the reasons why I will myself to study so hard or put my heart into training. 'Cause I don't want her to regret putting in so much money for me just for my future.

Continuing, I have friends who really don't give a flying shit about their studies. They just don't give a shit and it upsets me because I always think, "Your parents sent you to an expensive school and you don't even try to study or work hard." It doesn't matter whether you're on bad terms with your parents or not, I don't think this gives you the right to not study plus, it's for your future unless you don't even give a shit then fine. Just drop out of school, don't let precious money go to waste lol. But for those who actually care about your parents, even a tad bit, really. Think about the amount of money they spent on you just for your education. At least try? I'm pretty sure a lot of parents out there work hard to earn money for the sake of your family. So just do your part, study hard. It's not easy, I know, of course I know how it feels like. I can slack like shit but I always choose not to because my mum comes into my mind when my brain feels like slacking. I'm really not sure about you guys but I hope this in some ways inspires you to study harder or work harder, even if it's just a little bit. So maybe when you feel like slacking? Think of your parents maybe?

I know this may not be a good topic because I'm not sure how are your relationships with your parents but in the end, they are your parents. But this is how I feel about it *shrugs* So do something in return at least, I'm pretty sure they will appreciate it, even if they don't show it.

Disappointed.

Love Rachel*

Do you like it sticky?

Serenity
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I is back! Got some positive feedback from some of my friends so I'm pretty inspired to keep on blogging and I really appreciate the kind words! (: Just to let you know, I just type my thoughts out and I don't organise them. I only re-read it to correct my English if not surely there'll be people who say that my England very powderful. Moving on.

Okay, so do you like it sticky? ;) Dirty minded bastards. hahahaha. What I mean is attachment. You could be attached to your books, your phones, boyfriend, girlfriend and even mothers (seriously). Well I'm gonna focus this attachment topic mainly on boyfriend and girlfriend. It's one of the main factors that contribute to a strong relationship, in my opinion. Many people would have different views on it but for me, couples shouldn't be too attached to each other or be not attached enough (I didn't know this was possible until I met friends who had partners like that) so you should be in the middle.

I feel that attachment is important because it's all about space. As a couple, you should respect each other's space and know how far you should distant yourself from your partner. I've seen some couples where one side, is like super attached to the partner and the other partner is like trying to get far away as possible. End up, it's just like a lost puppy following a stranger. Both sides should even out their attachment. Let's have a scenario.
Hmm, let's say there's this couple, Bob and Boblina(these were the first two names that came into my mind so don't judge, tq). Bob's the super attached boyfie and Boblina is the girlfriend who's not attached enough :b Bob tries to get closer to Boblina by being more attached but instead it's actually pushing Boblina further away. If I were in Boblina's position, I would just be damn annoyed. Personally, I cannot stand boyfriends who are super sticky (attached), it's very irritating. Its like "back off boy, I have a life too." So Bob, what do you do, to get Boblina to get closer to you....? You distance yourself away from her, that's what you do. It's not gonna be easy because you're all so new to it and over-attachment is damn hard to overcome but if you want your girl back, you do what it takes. Sooner or later, Boblina's gonna be wondering, "Where my lost puppy at? Why he ain't sticking to me no more?" This not only helps Boblina to grow more attached (because she's always so used to having Bob stuck to her) and it helps Bob to be less attached.

Sounds easy but it definitely isn't at all. Attachment is pretty difficult to change but all for the better of the relationship right? I think this is the best way for a relationship to work out properly, equal attachment (: But I know there are people out there who feel that being abit more attached might work better. Well, whatever floats your boat. A couple should respect each other's space and know how much space they should give each other. Let them go out with their man friends or let the girl have her gossip time with her girlies.
Maybe before getting into a relationship, a couple should compromise. How much space are you two comfortable with, and all that bullshit. Just sort it out so you guys won't have so much problems. Trust me, over-attachment and under-attachment can lead to a shit loads of problems and you guys have to deal with a lot of problems by then. So in a nutshell, be mediumly-attached? (no it's not a word, smart arse)

"Try not to confuse 'attachment' with 'love'. Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because you're already full."

-Yasmin Mogahed-                                

What am I suppose to say to you?

Love Rachel*

"Fat people are indiscipline"

Don't let society choose for you.
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When was the last time I blogged? Months? It's gonna be hard for me to blog consistently because I'm starting to study already. I'm sacrificing some of my free time right now cause I think this topic is worth blogging about.

My title, "Fat people are indiscipline" is actually a quote by one of the Star Newspapers writer. She wrote an article about "No benefit in being fat". It pissed tons of people off and it actually went international. That's how serious it got. Unfortunately, the article was removed off the internet and I didn't get the chance to read it. It was actually a topic discussed on Business FM today (I had no choice okay, my grandpa doesn't like hitz.fm, pssh!)

I agree and yet disagree to that statement. Why do I disagree? I don't think you can judge how discipline someone is by their size can you? A person can be very discipline in his/her work or whatever it is and yet choose not wanting to be fit. There are some people as well who actually cannot control their weight due to medical problems. I heard on the radio that some medications actually cause you to be fat or you're born with it. Shocker right? Didn't know it was possible. And why do I agree? Well, when you want to maintain being fit, it takes a lot of discipline. You gotta bring yourself to exercise, eat clean, resist all the tempting food, make sure you exercise consistently blah blah blah. I can personally relate to this because I'm a person who believes that everyone should not be overweight or underweight but have a healthy BMI. It's difficult for a person to do this because well, you needa be darn discipline especially to be consistent at it.

Oh the author also mentioned that most of the CEOs are fat people and their neck not visible (meaning like triple chin or something). Partially true, because most of the CEOs I've met are well, a little round. Okay, you're a CEO, you're rich, you don't give a shit whether you're fat. "I have money bitches, who cares!" True true but in my opinion, I think CEOs should be presentable... It gives a good impression doesn't it? You see this average sized man in a suit and you see a round man with a suit, who would you have a better impression of? Obviously the first option. Yeah we all say, well don't judge blah blah blah. But really, let's be realistic here, who in the world wouldn't judge? We've been brought up in a society that has already set on how people should look and be. You see a fat man, eating like a shit load of food, what do you think instantly?.... Exactly. And yeah social discrimination, she discriminated "fat people" on newspaper. You idiot, on newspaper?! It was pretty shallow of her to say things like that.

Oh, she also said that fat people are dishonest because they lie about the amount of food they eat. Well, a lie is a lie... Everyone lies, so it makes everyone dishonest, no? The author, I feel, just wrote her thoughts out. She didn't use the right words and she judged fat people straight away. She made a huge mistake because when you write these sort of things and publish it, people will punch you in the face man. She kinda reflects what society is, "judgmental" no? But regardless, I feel everyone should try their best to stay fit because it's healthy for you. And I have to agree that there is no benefit being fat. Be big because of muscles not fats. Sorry if I've offended anyone but this is just what I think. Thanks Y'all! :)

Love Rachel*