"Stop looking at your crotch!" they say

yep.

yeah sure.

Hey everyone! Finally another blog post, I'm so sorry for the late post. Sooner or later people are going to be less interested in my blog, sobs. It's my fault for not being able to blog often. Also, before I move on to today's post, I was also thinking whether I should just have like short blog post about different restaurants I go to so I can let you know where you can find good food and so. Is that a good idea? :x Please lemme know!

Alright, so guys, guess what... I left my phone in Mark's car so I'm phone less and I will be phone less for the next 2.5 days because I'm only seeing him then. Plus I'm going overseas so I can't communicate to my friends in my country D: Some of you might be like, "Meh, I don't need my phone anyway." OR "Oh no! The horror D:" As you all know I don't have twitter/instagram anymore so I don't spend much time on my phone. To be honest, I don't mind having my phone, not like I use it much any way :b Most of the time I use my phone for whatsapp, snapchat and to play Plants VS Zombies 2 hehe. That's about it. It might seem a lot but when I have no one to talk to, I either play PvsZ 2 or just leave my phone alone and read. I'm not sure how I'll do without my phone for the next 2.5 days but, we'll see. I usually use it as a distraction or when I have nothing to do. I guess we'll see what I'll be doing now when I don't have my phone as a distraction. Hehe.

I'm not sure whether you guys notice this but when you go out to eat and all I realise many people use their phones at the table and when the food comes, they'll put it away, eat and when they are done, use their phone and wait to leave. If you haven't, seriously take a good look around you. There was once when I was in a restaurant, this whole family all had their phones out and they were just staring down at the crotch (where their phones are placed). Sometimes, even some couples. You're out on a date or whatever, speak to each other! Why would you want to speak to anyone else when your lover is sitting right in front of you! You guys are on a date to spend time with each other, not spend time on your phone! Of course I have used my phone at the table before but I always try to tell myself to stop the habit. It's bad that it has become a habit to automatically take out your phone while waiting for the food, I'll feel horrible. Once I realise I'm using my phone, I quickly put it away.

I'm not trying to give some sort of lecture or what but I'm just trying to create awareness about it. Personally, I think it's rude to be staring down at the screen during meal times even though I do do it at times. (Trust me I feel guilty after that) Also, use the time to actually talk to the people at the table. Some of you will think it's totally fine to use the phone but that's because it has already become a habit for you, which is worse! There's this saying going around that people nowadays are losing their communication skills or do not know how to communicate because we're always taking the easy way out of things. We just text/email each other instead.

To me, it's just really saddening to see a family or a group of people constantly looking down at their phone and not talking at a table. I'm really trying to stop that habit of mine as well. Seriously guys, look around you when you go to a restaurant, you'll be amaze how engrossed people are with their phones. I'm really sorry if you guys think I'm lecturing you but I'm not D: I just think it's becoming a really big issue seeing everyone glued to their phones like that and not actually talking:/ I hope you guys can see the problem here and do something about it. It's good for you and everyone else around you :)

Take care everyone! Have a great weekend, thank you for reading :)

Love Rachel*

Being a keeper

True friends do that. 

Hey guys, before I start I just wanna say I'm sorry for not updating my blog:( I know it's been a while. I'm really not the type to update daily plus I don't blog about my life so it's going to be a bit harder for me to blog often. I hope you guys can understand that. Please do tell me what you want me to blog about,please? :( It might spring up more ideas for me as well! Anyhow, thank you so much for dropping by once in a while, it really means a lot to me. It makes me want to not abandon my blog, haha. Moving on!

Hmm, I don't think I've ever touched on the "friends" topic before (I hope) so today I shall :) When I was younger let us say 3-5 years back, I've always believed that when you had a best friend, it means that you would be her/his best friend as well and that you can only have ONE best friend. Your best friend can't have any other best friend other than you, do you get it? Yes, I thought of this best friend concept thing that way and because of that I lost one or two close friends. If you and your friend have your friendship this way then that's great but I realise I can't go with that concept anymore.

Honestly, I don't think I'm that good at keeping friends as well, haha but I have learnt a thing or two at least. I know that friends come and go, it's not necessarily a bad thing or neither it is a replacement for your old friends. It's basically meeting new people in your life. You'll know what kind of people you'll click with and what kind of people you don't. You don't have to kick your old friends out just because you've met new friends. It just makes your friendship circle even bigger.

Again, a huge ass friendship circle isn't necessarily a good thing as well. You can have shit loads of friends but you don't know THAT MUCH about them. The saying "quality over quantity" comes into play. I believe that it's healthy to have one or two or even a few friends to be really close with so if anything happens, they can be there for you and also you be there for them in return. It's pretty obvious that friendship, like relationships work both ways. You need two hands to clap, it takes two to tango or whatever else saying that exists. If you want to keep that friendship going, both sides will have to put in the effort. You don't have to be talking to each other 24/7 to be the greatest of friends! Understand that your friends are still human. They can't be there for you every time you fall down, they won't be able to always pick up their phone or they sometimes won't be able to help you with your problems and it applies to you as well. You can't ALWAYS be there for each other but try.

I know that sometimes you want to try to keep all of the friends you have but know that, at some point you'll have to let go of certain friendships, basically the ones which are not meant to be. Remember, it's not necessarily bad. But don't push new people away so that you can keep your old friends forever. I think it is also a good reminder for me as well. Just because you haven't talked to your good friends in a while doesn't mean that your friendship is fading away. It might just take one meet up lunch or catch up session to bring all the memories and friendship back and that happened to me today :) When I met up with my good friends for lunch this afternoon, it just felt like how it was last time, which made me really happy.

What I'm trying to say is, put an effort into your friendship but don't try too hard. (I know it sounds like so wtf you want me to do sorta thing haha) Sometimes, you may have to let things happen on its own, don't force it. Just let nature take its course and go with the flow. Also, remember to always be yourself when it comes to friends. If they like you for who you are, they'll stay but if they don't they'll go but that's alright because you want to be surrounded by friends who truly appreciate you for who you are :) We're all human, we're gonna mess things up with our friends. We're gonna lose some but we're gonna get some pretty kickass friends as well:)

Thank you so much guys for reading my blog, I'm so sorry for the rush post:( I'm still thinking of a new blog name, I'm like waiting for the light bulb moment, haha. You know those "AHAH!" moment, yeah those. Anyhow, have a great week and I hope I'll be able to update the next one soon:)

Love Rachel*

"Use to cheer" life

Hello everybody! Decided to update today since I've got nothing better to do and also "N" would like me to blog about my past cheer life. I know it's not one of my usual "moral of the story" thing where I'm suppose to inspire people and all. Anyhow, I hope you guys will read on and maybe pick up a thing or two from this post :)

So, maybe through this post you will be able to know more about me personally and also a much more personal perspective of Cyrens, my ex high school cheerleading team.

Hmm, I honestly don't know where to start... Alright, here it goes.

Cyrens has won Cheer 5 years in a row (2010-2014) and I joined Cyrens in 2011, so I've only won with my team 4 times. Let me tell you, initially, I had no interest in cheerleading at all but that's another story of how it all began which I will tell when I'm not lazy and if people are actually interested. Before I continue, for those who don't know my school or Cyrens, we're just a high school team not a hardcore All-Star team who trains 7 times a week haha.

Cyrens train 4 times a week, 2 and a half hours each practice. We have one practice for tumblings (meaning the flips and all). Over the years, girls in Cyrens would range from age 13-17. In the beginning when I was still a junior, I was pretty afraid of the seniors, I mean we're suppose to respect your seniors. But walao, when I was a senior, most of the juniors won't give a single fuck about you, push you and think they own the school. But when I got in the team in 2011, I was wrong. My seniors throughout my cheer life were really friendly, funny and were also like a bunch of hooligans. They made me and the rest of the juniors really comfortable during practices. It's not like how people would usually think, seniors will only talk to seniors during practice. It's nothing like that. We seriously bond together as a team, which is super important when you have to stunt with different people during the routine. I felt like I was at home despite the super tiring practices and crazy batshit scoldings from my coaches

I think after 2012, I told myself I was going to quit because one thing about cheer is that, you need to commit 200%. Cheer took up so much of my time, I also went home late, was late for ballet and in the end, I had to quit drumming and ballet classes if not I wouldn't have time for cheer. Why didn't I quit cheer instead right? Well, it was really hard once you've been sucked into that "cheer life". You have super memorable moments with your teammates and that bond that brings you so close together as a team and also, I became co-captain for Cyrens 2013 (which was another way of saying "haha, you're stuck with cheer now) How the hell was I going to quit now right? lol. And so I told myself to endure those time-consuming practices, crazy scoldings and pressuring cheer events we had to go through. Don't get me wrong, it was another fun-filled year definitely :) Senior year then came, my last year to join cheer and I stayed, definitely. It was my final year and no doubt I wanted to enjoy my last cheer year before I left school. I also became the captain of Cyrens 2014 with no regrets :)

Every cheer year, you'll have new members for sure because our seniors graduate and we have to take over their places. The cycle goes on and on. When it was my turn to be a senior, I treated my juniors like how my seniors treated me. You take them as your own family, you get to know each teammate personally. In my opinion, I think creating a bond in team sports is very important. It gives you chemistry with everyone, making it easier to work with them as a team. What really kept me in cheer were my teammates. I knew that there was no where else I could form the same bond again and meet crazy ass people like them again. I stayed because of them, if not I was ready to give up my cheer life. Everyone in the team real opened up to each other, and it just made you feel like you're important and that you are a part of a family:) Everyone's always having each other back, we watch over each other like sisters. It just made me feel like I belong somewhere you know. The feeling is really hard to describe, you just gotta be in it and feel it to really know what I'm talking about:) Now most of you would know why it was really hard for me to let go of them and why I was so attached to my team for awhile after senior year.

Also, let me point out something that I also had to endure during my cheer life: Cheer hate. Yep. We won year after year and there were many people out there who didn't like us. They came up with stories like this which was completely absurd. "Cyrens bribed the judges" "Sure under table one" And I just got super mad. We work our asses off ok. So don't simply assume things if you have no legit evidence. Whenever we won, there was hate. "No they don't deserve to win" and what if we don't win one of the years? *touch wood* People will still have something to say right? "They lost because they suck this year" and blah blah. Look guys, we don't control the other teams that compete. What every team does is to just go out there and try to hit a perfect routine. That's basically what every other team out there does, we just want a perfect routine. The win is just a plus. If you do a team sport, it's the same thing. Yes, Cyrens receive a lot of support from our school which we are super grateful for no doubt. Our school puts a lot of effort into our team, we are very fortunate and they are also the reason why we work hard and try to make our school proud, end of story:)

Right now, I've passed that post cheer depression stage. haha. There's a new Cyrens coming up and I know that they will be even stronger this year. I've moved on. I miss cheering of course but that was my high school life. I've graduated and I just wanna go out there and try new things. If I further my studies, who knows, maybe I might just join cheer again for the heck of it. haha. Anyway, I don't know what kind of response I'll get from this post but I hope it'll be positive. If any of you have any questions about Cyrens, just feel free to ask me :) But again, I do not welcome hate.

Thanks for reading this guys and also thank you "N" for giving me the chance to blog about this. It really brought back a lot of happy memories I had with the team:) Cheer has been a huge part of my life and it really did shape me into who I am today. *cringes* because geli :b

Love Rachel*