Being a keeper

True friends do that. 

Hey guys, before I start I just wanna say I'm sorry for not updating my blog:( I know it's been a while. I'm really not the type to update daily plus I don't blog about my life so it's going to be a bit harder for me to blog often. I hope you guys can understand that. Please do tell me what you want me to blog about,please? :( It might spring up more ideas for me as well! Anyhow, thank you so much for dropping by once in a while, it really means a lot to me. It makes me want to not abandon my blog, haha. Moving on!

Hmm, I don't think I've ever touched on the "friends" topic before (I hope) so today I shall :) When I was younger let us say 3-5 years back, I've always believed that when you had a best friend, it means that you would be her/his best friend as well and that you can only have ONE best friend. Your best friend can't have any other best friend other than you, do you get it? Yes, I thought of this best friend concept thing that way and because of that I lost one or two close friends. If you and your friend have your friendship this way then that's great but I realise I can't go with that concept anymore.

Honestly, I don't think I'm that good at keeping friends as well, haha but I have learnt a thing or two at least. I know that friends come and go, it's not necessarily a bad thing or neither it is a replacement for your old friends. It's basically meeting new people in your life. You'll know what kind of people you'll click with and what kind of people you don't. You don't have to kick your old friends out just because you've met new friends. It just makes your friendship circle even bigger.

Again, a huge ass friendship circle isn't necessarily a good thing as well. You can have shit loads of friends but you don't know THAT MUCH about them. The saying "quality over quantity" comes into play. I believe that it's healthy to have one or two or even a few friends to be really close with so if anything happens, they can be there for you and also you be there for them in return. It's pretty obvious that friendship, like relationships work both ways. You need two hands to clap, it takes two to tango or whatever else saying that exists. If you want to keep that friendship going, both sides will have to put in the effort. You don't have to be talking to each other 24/7 to be the greatest of friends! Understand that your friends are still human. They can't be there for you every time you fall down, they won't be able to always pick up their phone or they sometimes won't be able to help you with your problems and it applies to you as well. You can't ALWAYS be there for each other but try.

I know that sometimes you want to try to keep all of the friends you have but know that, at some point you'll have to let go of certain friendships, basically the ones which are not meant to be. Remember, it's not necessarily bad. But don't push new people away so that you can keep your old friends forever. I think it is also a good reminder for me as well. Just because you haven't talked to your good friends in a while doesn't mean that your friendship is fading away. It might just take one meet up lunch or catch up session to bring all the memories and friendship back and that happened to me today :) When I met up with my good friends for lunch this afternoon, it just felt like how it was last time, which made me really happy.

What I'm trying to say is, put an effort into your friendship but don't try too hard. (I know it sounds like so wtf you want me to do sorta thing haha) Sometimes, you may have to let things happen on its own, don't force it. Just let nature take its course and go with the flow. Also, remember to always be yourself when it comes to friends. If they like you for who you are, they'll stay but if they don't they'll go but that's alright because you want to be surrounded by friends who truly appreciate you for who you are :) We're all human, we're gonna mess things up with our friends. We're gonna lose some but we're gonna get some pretty kickass friends as well:)

Thank you so much guys for reading my blog, I'm so sorry for the rush post:( I'm still thinking of a new blog name, I'm like waiting for the light bulb moment, haha. You know those "AHAH!" moment, yeah those. Anyhow, have a great week and I hope I'll be able to update the next one soon:)

Love Rachel*