Haters, back off

(I like the flower)

It's almost towards the end of 2014, crazy right? Make the most of what you have left!

Ok, so my post today is pretty direct right? It's about haters! YAY haters, the attention is on you now! *cheers* I've talked about haters before but I don't think I've ever mentioned about dealing with them. So let us begin!

I was on my blog last night making some adjustments when I saw the an anon on my cbox by the name of ".." , commented a hate and a statement to attack my feelings. And I deleted it not because I'm a coward (well, we all know who the true coward is in this case) but because first of all, I do not welcome hate on my blog. The whole point of my blog is to (hopefully) help people who just need advice and who may be a little shy to ask for help so through my blog, I hope to give as much help to others. I do not want lifeless anons giving out negative vibes on my blog, it's just unacceptable. I want to give out positive vibes instead. Second, I know the anon was trying to make me feel bad about myself and I didn't think it was worth feeding him/her the attention that anon is "craving" by replying him/her.

You might think I'm giving attention to that anon by making this post, no I'm not. You think that anon so special meh? I'm making this post for ALL THE HATERS out there. Don't worry haters, there's enough attention for everyone:) Share share ok?

I used to take anonymous hate very personally because whatever they say will be very insulting and may hurt your feelings. I'm sure most of you have gone through that so we're on the same boat! You then get like really angry and worked up, making you CAPS LOCK THAT HATER!!!! (The deadly caps lock, gee, I'm terrified) But think about it guys, why waste your energy/effort/feelings on an ANONYMOUS person that has nothing to do with your life? Is that anon worth your time? Are you seriously going to reply or shout at that person because he/she does not like you? Are you going to stoop as low as that hater? Plus, he/she is anonymous! More reason for you to just ignore him/her! You see, haters are like an insignificant speck of dust on your shirt. How do you get rid of them? Just brush them off! Ta-da! Hater-free!Product guaranteed ;) !

Keep in mind that, haters will always be there, there will always be someone out there who will not like your presence or whatever you do. They will try to bring you down, drain your self-esteem, see you in pain so that they can feel better about themselves. But, it is up to YOU whether you're willing to feed them the attention that they want. It is up to YOU whether you are gonna accept what they said and take it personally. It is up to YOU whether you're going to let some pathetic anonymous hate bring you down. Form a bubble around yourself and whenever someone sends you hate, let it bounce off the bubble. It's like a selective permeable membrane, only let the good in and not the hate :) You're much more than that to let some sad, hateful anon make an impact on you.

*shines spotlight* Now, at the blue corner, weighing 50 tons and more....

THE..... HATERRRRRRRS!!! 

Okay, let's be honest here, almost everyone out there is a hater. There will be someone we do not like, it's normal. You'll feel the need to send anonymous hate to the other person, then what? Do you ACTUALLY feel better about yourself? What are you trying to achieve here? Send anonymous hate so everyone will hate that person too? Exactly no! First of all, you should be ASHAMED at yourself for even sending hate anonymously. That is such a cowardly act! You want to hate someone but you don't wanna show your face because you're afraid people will hate on you too? See, it's a cycle! And if you're trying to put them down, well, you are really wrong my dear hater because that individual will have friends and family out there who will love him/her. They'll help them back up, sooner or later, they'll forget about the hate you gave them in the first place. I'm sorry to tell you but your plan will not work, the whole world is not going to hate that person with some anonymous who has no balls to admit who he/she is. 

So everyone, if you hate someone, why do you even use up all your energy to go to someone's profile or wherever, go anonymous, spend your time to send that person hate? Are you really that lifeless? Are you seriously going to spend your effort on someone you hate when you can spend it on something else that is actually worth your time? If you don't like that person, delete him/her, remove that person from wherever, just get rid of that person from your life, duh. It's really that simple, guys.

If you're receiving hate, just delete them off. They're not worth your time or your feelings. If you're gonna care about what they said to you, that means that they have won, so don't let them win! Remember, haters will always always always be there BUT they cannot enter your bubble of anti-hate and awesomeness.

And dear anonymous haters, seriously, stop your cowardly act. It's so childish and immature, are you seriously going to stoop that low? It doesn't make you a better person nor does it actually make you feel better about yourself. I'm sure you can spend those time with someone who actually loves you okay? Stop spreading hate, especially anonymous hate. (I'm sorry, I just cannot stand how cowardly sending anonymous hate is) Spread the love and good vibes instead ~~~~

So what right if you get hate? You got your bubble, be one with the bubble. Maybe you can say that if someone sends you hate, "Be on with the bubble OF AWESOMENESS" or drop by my blog and read this again. Alright, gonna get some of my grandma's hakka mee for dinner:3 Thank you for reading y'all! I hope you readers will take in what I've said and apply it to your life! Remember, 

HATERS, BACK OFF!

-Miranda Sings-

Love Rachel*

What is love?

Love is "Drive safely". 

Love is "Tell me when you get home safe". 

Love is respecting each other by saying please and thank you. 

Love is opening the door for her. 

Love is understanding each other. 

Love is holding each others' hands when you're out for a walk. 

Love is being there for one another.

Love is telling her how beautiful she is when she's at her worst.

Love is telling him how brave he is when he has to face his fears.

I've realised that many people don't have long lasting relationships because they don't "work out" (That's what they call it nowadays). We all see on twitter and instagram with really sweet and beautiful couple pictures that just makes you go "awww, I want a relationship like that." Then we all make it our "#relationshipgoals". Well guess what people? That picture does not show their relationship's journey.

We see pictures like that and so when we actually get into it, we would expect the same. Now, that's where you are oh-so-wrong! You realised that when you get into a relationship, it's not all sweet and happy, where you two hold hands and skip around the grassy meadow filled with butterflies. No. To get to that grassy meadow, you gotta go through shit first because that's how it is. Don't just get into a relationship and expect to be happy right away. That's not how it works. If you want to get into a relationship just so you can post happy couple pictures then you have some serious thinking to do and mature up.

If you wanna get into a relationship, first, you gotta be ready to commit because it ain't ALL about you anymore. You're sharing your life with someone else. You have to be ready for heartbreaks, getting angry, arguments, crying and whatever else that goes on in relationships. I'm not trying to scare you and tell you not to get into relationships. It's just part of getting into one. It is how it is. Yeah, try sweeping all your problems under the carpet just so you can avoid arguing and "be happy". At some point in your relationship, believe me when I tell you this, you'll be so sick of pretending to be happy. Your problems won't fit under the carpet no more and either one of you are going to burst.

You can say I'm really old -fashioned but when I get into relationships it's because I think that person has the potential to be my spouse and so I try my best with my partner to work towards that "goal". No, I'm thinking far ahead, I'm just working our relationship towards something. But if you know that you're gonna break up with that person anyway, seriously, why bother getting into a relationship in the first place? You're gonna waste your time,effort, money blah blah. Also, if you realise that you can no longer be happy with your partner, call the relationship off. No point dragging it because you're afraid to hurt him/her. Dragging the relationship is just going to make things worst and more painful, so do you and your partner a favour and just leave. It's all for the better but of course, give it another chance before you decide that. 

What I'm basically trying to say is that, if you're going to get into a relationship and want to be happy.You have to work for it. It's like how when you do a sport and you want to earn a skill, you have to do shit loads of strength work and fixing your technique to achieve that skill. It's a painful journey but most of the time it's worth it. Relationships aren't scary like what normally people would think. It's "scary" because they're afraid of hurting people and getting hurt themselves. Let me tell you that, "hurt" is inevitable, unavoidable or any other synonym that relates which is why usually many partners cannot confront each other which is very bad. It's part of being in a relationship, you take it or you leave it. *shrugs* I wouldn't say relationships are a burden, I think it has changed me for the better and I've learnt a lot through experience. And nope,I do not regret anything.

There's always pros and cons for everything, it's just which side are you going to fight for with your heart? And one more very important thing I always tell my friends, if you cannot be happy ON YOUR OWN, don't expect relationships to make you happy. No one is in charge of your own happiness except you. So if you cannot be happy on your own, don't you dare get into a relationship because it'll end up becoming a huge ass mess. I know right, why the hell are you taking advice from a 17 year old girl? What does she know about love? haha. It's true, love is a huge word, it can mean anything to anyone but I'm just sharing this from experience. Accept love and share the love. Love makes us human :)

Once again, thank you for reading my posts, I'll try my best to update whenever I can/ whenever I'm inspired. Please let me know what you would like me to blog about so I can blog more often, if not, you gotta wait :b Thank you again my lovely readers <3

Love Rachel*