Love is "Drive safely".
Love is "Tell me when you get home safe".
Love is respecting each other by saying please and thank you.
Love is opening the door for her.
Love is understanding each other.
Love is holding each others' hands when you're out for a walk.
Love is being there for one another.
Love is telling her how beautiful she is when she's at her worst.
Love is telling him how brave he is when he has to face his fears.
I've realised that many people don't have long lasting relationships because they don't "work out" (That's what they call it nowadays). We all see on twitter and instagram with really sweet and beautiful couple pictures that just makes you go "awww, I want a relationship like that." Then we all make it our "#relationshipgoals". Well guess what people? That picture does not show their relationship's journey.
We see pictures like that and so when we actually get into it, we would expect the same. Now, that's where you are oh-so-wrong! You realised that when you get into a relationship, it's not all sweet and happy, where you two hold hands and skip around the grassy meadow filled with butterflies. No. To get to that grassy meadow, you gotta go through shit first because that's how it is. Don't just get into a relationship and expect to be happy right away. That's not how it works. If you want to get into a relationship just so you can post happy couple pictures then you have some serious thinking to do and mature up.
If you wanna get into a relationship, first, you gotta be ready to commit because it ain't ALL about you anymore. You're sharing your life with someone else. You have to be ready for heartbreaks, getting angry, arguments, crying and whatever else that goes on in relationships. I'm not trying to scare you and tell you not to get into relationships. It's just part of getting into one. It is how it is. Yeah, try sweeping all your problems under the carpet just so you can avoid arguing and "be happy". At some point in your relationship, believe me when I tell you this, you'll be so sick of pretending to be happy. Your problems won't fit under the carpet no more and either one of you are going to burst.
You can say I'm really old -fashioned but when I get into relationships it's because I think that person has the potential to be my spouse and so I try my best with my partner to work towards that "goal". No, I'm thinking far ahead, I'm just working our relationship towards something. But if you know that you're gonna break up with that person anyway, seriously, why bother getting into a relationship in the first place? You're gonna waste your time,effort, money blah blah. Also, if you realise that you can no longer be happy with your partner, call the relationship off. No point dragging it because you're afraid to hurt him/her. Dragging the relationship is just going to make things worst and more painful, so do you and your partner a favour and just leave. It's all for the better but of course, give it another chance before you decide that.
What I'm basically trying to say is that, if you're going to get into a relationship and want to be happy.You have to work for it. It's like how when you do a sport and you want to earn a skill, you have to do shit loads of strength work and fixing your technique to achieve that skill. It's a painful journey but most of the time it's worth it. Relationships aren't scary like what normally people would think. It's "scary" because they're afraid of hurting people and getting hurt themselves. Let me tell you that, "hurt" is inevitable, unavoidable or any other synonym that relates which is why usually many partners cannot confront each other which is very bad. It's part of being in a relationship, you take it or you leave it. *shrugs* I wouldn't say relationships are a burden, I think it has changed me for the better and I've learnt a lot through experience. And nope,I do not regret anything.
There's always pros and cons for everything, it's just which side are you going to fight for with your heart? And one more very important thing I always tell my friends, if you cannot be happy ON YOUR OWN, don't expect relationships to make you happy. No one is in charge of your own happiness except you. So if you cannot be happy on your own, don't you dare get into a relationship because it'll end up becoming a huge ass mess. I know right, why the hell are you taking advice from a 17 year old girl? What does she know about love? haha. It's true, love is a huge word, it can mean anything to anyone but I'm just sharing this from experience. Accept love and share the love. Love makes us human :)
Once again, thank you for reading my posts, I'll try my best to update whenever I can/ whenever I'm inspired. Please let me know what you would like me to blog about so I can blog more often, if not, you gotta wait :b Thank you again my lovely readers <3
Love Rachel*
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