Do you like it sticky?

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I is back! Got some positive feedback from some of my friends so I'm pretty inspired to keep on blogging and I really appreciate the kind words! (: Just to let you know, I just type my thoughts out and I don't organise them. I only re-read it to correct my English if not surely there'll be people who say that my England very powderful. Moving on.

Okay, so do you like it sticky? ;) Dirty minded bastards. hahahaha. What I mean is attachment. You could be attached to your books, your phones, boyfriend, girlfriend and even mothers (seriously). Well I'm gonna focus this attachment topic mainly on boyfriend and girlfriend. It's one of the main factors that contribute to a strong relationship, in my opinion. Many people would have different views on it but for me, couples shouldn't be too attached to each other or be not attached enough (I didn't know this was possible until I met friends who had partners like that) so you should be in the middle.

I feel that attachment is important because it's all about space. As a couple, you should respect each other's space and know how far you should distant yourself from your partner. I've seen some couples where one side, is like super attached to the partner and the other partner is like trying to get far away as possible. End up, it's just like a lost puppy following a stranger. Both sides should even out their attachment. Let's have a scenario.
Hmm, let's say there's this couple, Bob and Boblina(these were the first two names that came into my mind so don't judge, tq). Bob's the super attached boyfie and Boblina is the girlfriend who's not attached enough :b Bob tries to get closer to Boblina by being more attached but instead it's actually pushing Boblina further away. If I were in Boblina's position, I would just be damn annoyed. Personally, I cannot stand boyfriends who are super sticky (attached), it's very irritating. Its like "back off boy, I have a life too." So Bob, what do you do, to get Boblina to get closer to you....? You distance yourself away from her, that's what you do. It's not gonna be easy because you're all so new to it and over-attachment is damn hard to overcome but if you want your girl back, you do what it takes. Sooner or later, Boblina's gonna be wondering, "Where my lost puppy at? Why he ain't sticking to me no more?" This not only helps Boblina to grow more attached (because she's always so used to having Bob stuck to her) and it helps Bob to be less attached.

Sounds easy but it definitely isn't at all. Attachment is pretty difficult to change but all for the better of the relationship right? I think this is the best way for a relationship to work out properly, equal attachment (: But I know there are people out there who feel that being abit more attached might work better. Well, whatever floats your boat. A couple should respect each other's space and know how much space they should give each other. Let them go out with their man friends or let the girl have her gossip time with her girlies.
Maybe before getting into a relationship, a couple should compromise. How much space are you two comfortable with, and all that bullshit. Just sort it out so you guys won't have so much problems. Trust me, over-attachment and under-attachment can lead to a shit loads of problems and you guys have to deal with a lot of problems by then. So in a nutshell, be mediumly-attached? (no it's not a word, smart arse)

"Try not to confuse 'attachment' with 'love'. Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because you're already full."

-Yasmin Mogahed-                                

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Love Rachel*