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Moving on...
I'm pretty sure everyone has kept their secrets, why? Why do you keep them? Why do you not tell them to someone? Because you're afraid someone might judge you. You're afraid someone might not look at you the same way they did before. Some of you may say, "I don't judge." Oh come on, seriously? We can't promise someone that we won't judge because we will judge either consciously or sub-consciously and that would be a lie. Don't tell me when you see a group of Bangladeshi men walking towards you and you won't think they're perverted or something. (I'm not being racist but truth to be told, most of us do think that way, don't we?) We judge people right there, on the spot. You may not say it out aloud but your mind has already made a judgement on what or who you see.
I do judge people sometimes, by how they present themselves. Well, sometimes people do show their personality through the way they dress and it's not always a case of bad fashion sense (I kinda think now, it's merely just used as an excuse) To me, I think the way you present yourself to the world, it's important. You don't need to like look super fabulous or be super slim or whatever. Just be decent. Well, because people do judge you. Let's say you're the boss of some fancy schmancy company and you want to hire a worker who's gonna hold a damn important post. Two male workers walk in, one dresses like he doesn't give a shit about anything but is very capable of doing the job and then there's another one with the suit & tie, looks like he's damn capable but he actually can't do shits. You then as the boss, would then think who'll be capable at first impression? The suit and tie right? That's judging right there. Intentionally or not. In a good way or a bad way, it's still judging. We really can't escape it.
The question is, why do we judge others? I guess it's because we have this set perception of how we see things, how we see the world and in our eyes, your perception is based on your perspective, perceived needs. That is your reality and you expect people to conform to it (again subconsciously). We then judge others because they do not meet the standards of our reality, they're not what you expect them to be. So you then say, "No you're not suppose to be fat, it's wrong." and then a fat person can then say, "It's okay to be fat. There's nothing wrong to it. You're the one who's too skinny" or whatever it is. We can't expect the whole world to have the same "reality" right? If not it'll just end up being a communist sorta thing. (This is my theory, at least.)
So I guess we cannot avoid judging... BUT that doesn't mean you can just judge however you like. Try maybe putting yourself in someone else's perspective and you'll probably be more understanding. Everyone is just basically misunderstanding each other, we just don't take the initiative to put ourselves in other people's shoes and see how they see the world. If you do, it might even widen your perspective of reality. We can't always point fingers and say, "Oh society judges, society judges." You make up society as well, so if we all be understanding for each other, life would most likely be a little bit better for all of us bit by bit. If you're gonna judge harshly, just keep it in your head. Because you're gonna get judged for being a judgmental bitch. But also, don't hide away your judgements, stand up for what you believe in but then put it in a nice way la :b In the end, don't jump straight to conclusions about people until you really get to know 'em.
Really like this quote.
I hope I didn't bore anyone. Thanks for reading anyway (:
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Love Rachel*
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